If You Have Social Anxiety, These Expert-Backed Tips Can Help You Cope With Parties
Remember to listen more than talk, Dubrow says. It can really help you take your mind off your nerves to hear other people share about themselves, and it means that for the time-being, you don’t have to worry about being charming or funny.
“Ask how they know the host and then about how the weekend is going, what they do for school or work, or anything about the event itself. Then, spend your time listening,” Dubrow says.
Also, socially anxious people are often more likely to talk their way through their anxiety, which can create unnecessarily awkward situations, Dubrow says. So, remember that social situations are like playing tennis — hit the ball to your partner with a question, and then wait for a return question back from your partner.
“If they don’t ask questions to you to keep the conversation going, you can always excuse yourself to go to the bathroom, or get a drink,” Dubrow says. You’ve done your part.